Love is Not Rude, Day 5: She Said, He Said

The Dare: Ask your spouse to list 3 things about you that make him/her uncomfortable or irritated, without attacking or justifying your behavior.

She Said: Jenn's Journal Entry Day 5

I am a bit behind on posting updates. Hoping to get caught up soon. Being 6 weeks postpartum with baby #4 I tend to forget I can't keep up my regular pace. At least not yet. But I have hope, this Mama WILL get her groove back! That said...we have been doing our Love Dare:

Steve shared with me the following 3 things. One I knew he would list (#3), the other two surprised me. I'll list them in the order he gave me, but he said they were not listed in any particular order.

1. I procrastinate on doing things for myself. I never find time to go shopping (like to buy a bra I desperately need), or to take some time away from the house to just go to the library, to read, relax and get away from it all for a bit. I need to do more for me.

2. I do not dry off completely when I get out of the tub, always in a hurry, and end up leaving wet footprints in my wake.

3. I do not keep up with the laundry and dishes on a daily basis. Piles of laundry and dirty dishes in the sink REALLY irritate him.

*DEEP breath* I did not validate or justify my actions. I could, but I won't. I just listened. I am really improving in that area. I plan on making time for myself more of a priority, even if I have to schedule it and put in on my to do list to get it done. I have been taking more time when I get out of the tub and drying off completely instead of jetting out of there like the house is on fire. I am desperately trying to do better with the laundry and dishes. My husband is not a neat freak, and is pretty understanding, and he is right there is much improvement needed in this area.

Trying to find balance is such a difficult challenge for me!

He Said: Steve's Journal Entry Day 5

Day 5 – Love is not Rude

My wife has requested that I try to do better in the following areas…

1. Don’t change the subject – Jenn likes to talk about things that are on her mind even though I don’t want to talk about it till the cow’s come home. I say my piece and move on to the next subject. Remedy? I need to spend a little more time discussing issues/comments with her to know that I do care (I do care I just get the important parts, put them on my brain and move on. We’ll cross that bridge when we get to it type of mentality).
2. She says I’m to hard on our oldest daughter, age 12. Don’t drink soda’s for breakfast is a good example. I have told Bry not to drink sodas for breakfast but she does anyway! What? Is that disrespect or she just can’t find anything else to drink in the fridge? I think it is the first one. It’s not just the soda’s I realize this, it is other things too. Remedy? I will try not to fuss at her about the little/petty things; I need to try to keep in mind that she could be doing worse things.
3. Snoring – WWWWHHHHAAATTT???? I do feel bad that I snore and Jenn can’t get any sleep, but what am I supposed to do? Remedy? I’ve tried the breathe strips, didn’t work. Could try it again. Talk to my doctor about it on the next visit. I’ve tried to get Jenn to go to bed and fall asleep before I come to bed but here lately that doesn’t happen. My sweet wife stays up with Chase and then comes to the sound of a freight train(so she says), speaking of snoring, I think I’m going to bed now. Have to go to work early tomorrow morning. SORRY. 143! These are the things I will work on!